Now What?

This blog has been online for several years now, but how often do I post? Not regularly, that is for sure. The reason I rarely post is because most of the time I am writing in my head, but never take the time to sit down and actually type out my thoughts. Being the mother of two boys, my days are fast paced and busy so, by the time I sit down, all I want to do is crush some candy or catch up on my reading.

Prior to having two kids, I was able to write often, but not the kind of writing that made me happy. My days were filled with Teen Mom gossip and I would often wake up in the middle of the night to write an article. My second pregnancy was filled with complications and by the time little Auggie arrived, I knew that I needed to slow down and focus on my family more so than ever.

I stepped back from writing shortly after he was born. We homeschool so I threw myself into that even more than I had before. I have enjoyed having time to pursue other interests such as crafting and couponing, but I have missed writing so much. Friends have told me to blog, but about what? I don’t have any interesting thoughts (I don’t think so, anyway) and, even if I did, would I have the time to sit down and write them out for people to read?

Interestingly, I decided to get back into blogging a few hours ago, but the spark has been there for a few days. Recently, I have started researching for a novel that I hope to start writing next month. That research led me to where I have been extensively researching my family tree (that will not be in my novel, it is just a fun side project that popped up randomly) which had me thinking about blogging.

When I turned on my computer tonight, it wasn’t to blog, at least not on my own site. I am an administrator on another blog for which I keep updated and I intended on doing that. Instead, after a day on Pinterest and viewing other fun blogs, I realized that I can do what other stay-at-home moms do and I can do it just as good. My goal now is to take my love of writing and house it here in some form.

Let’s do this.


Staying Positive In the World of Celebrity Gossip

When people ask what I do for a living I answer, “I’m a freelance writer.” Nine times out of ten, the follow-up question is, “What do you write?” This is where it gets interesting. When I answer “mostly celebrity gossip,” they either look at me and say “that’s interesting” or they inquire more in-depth. I will then go into an almost rehearsed speech at this point where I explain that the bulk of my writing focuses on reality television, mainly Teen Mom and that I fell into by accident.

I truly did.

My first freelance job was in 2009 and I was (well, still am for that site) a pop culture writer. The bulk of my material centered around Miley Cyrus as that was around the time she was quitting Hannah Montana and doing outrageous things that the public loves to read about.

And that is the point. The public doesn’t want to read about a celebrity having a great day or doing something good. Rather, the public wants the negativity, the drama. They want to hear about drug problems, rehab, scandals. I suppose it is their way to look at celebrities and say, “See, they aren’t so perfect.”

Not every story I have ever written has been completely positive; I would be lying if I said it was. There was a time I fed into the drama because, well, more drama equals more views. However, there came a point when I realized that celebrities may be rich and famous, but they are also human beings. I think it hit me most when I started covering Teen Mom 2 extensively.

Like these girls, I was a young single mom. While I was older than any of them, I could still relate to their struggles. Then, I would log onto social networking and see the immense hate that these girls were receiving for living their lives. Were they perfect? No, but was the public seeing everything exactly how it was? Again, no. There is so much editing that goes into reality television that people don’t take into consideration. Rather, they see that the show is a “reality show” and assume that everything is “real.”

It’s not. And that is why I chose to take a positive approach to celebrity gossip writing. Has it always gone over well? Definitely not. However, it has helped me to appreciate people more and has even helped me to have the opportunity to chat with some of the girls. It always makes me smile when one of the Teen Mom girls will “favorite” or “retweet” an article of mine. It makes me proud to know that they appreciate what I wrote about them; They didn’t have to take the time to even look at what I wrote, but for a second they did and they liked it. That always makes me feel like I am doing a great job at staying positive.